Hey Mom! Who Is Running The Show? - A Guest Post By Lynn Banis

Monday, August 23, 2010

Who is running the show at your house? Is it the the kids? the pets? the cleaning? the washing? the carpooling? Whatever it is, if it is not you that is a problem. Moms, you live busy, busy lives and it is easy for you to lose control of things. You get inundated and overwhelmed by everybody and everything. When that happens you not only lose control and become a salve to all of those things but you also lose your power and sometimes even your self-esteem. You can get to the point when you feel walked on and taken advantage of. Not good.

How do you get your control back and get rid of that feeling of overwhelm? It is sapping your energy and making it harder to do the things you need and want to do. Here are some suggestions for you to try. Pick the ones that work the best for you in your situation.

1. Carve out "me" time. It can be anytime of the day or night but it needs to be scheduled just like a doctor's appointment. You have to take care of yourself first. No one else will do it for you. As I have said many times before, if you don't take care of yourself you will have nothing left to give to anyone else and people are counting on you to have the energy and enthusiasm to do for them. This one thing, a little "me" time is absolutely essential. Do it everyday even if it is only for a few minutes.

2. Take control of your inner voice. Do not let it cut you down or make you feel you are a bad mom. You are not a bad mom you are just overwhelmed with all there is to do. Replace what that voice is saying to you with things like, "I am doing what I can do at this moment and it is good." or "I am grateful for all that I have and I am making the best of it." Choose a positive attitude and use positive words for your mantra.

3. Remember that you always have a choice in what you decide to do and think. Take back your control. It does not belong to anyone or anything else. Make decisions and stick to them. If there is not enough time to do something say so and plan it for another day. You do not have to be perfect just effective. Doing 100% on everything is not humanly possible so do what makes sense and let it go. At this very moment and every other moment you are being the best mom you can be.

4. Keep your gratitude journal up. Write in it every day and the positive energy from writing in it will help brighten your day.

I hope these four suggestions help get you back on the path to being more in control of your life. Enjoy it and live it your way.

Thank you for all the great comments. I really appreciate them! Please add some things you are struggling with or would like to know about. I am happy to write about them in a future post.

Lynn Banis, PhD, MCC

The High Performance Coach

Read more posts from the Hey Mom Series here, here and here. Moms work hard and deserve encouragement! Please share this post with other Moms you know.

Lynn is a Master Certified Coach with years of experiences helping moms through tough situations. She would love to answer your questions on a weekly basis. What are you struggling with? What questions do you have about getting through the day? Leave her a few comments with your questions and concerns and she will be happy to write about them in future posts. To find out more about Lynn and how she can help you live your passion, visit her at: www.discoverypointcoaching.com/blog


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